OK so if you feel Lemmy has been trending towards hostility in the past weeks ppease here me out, interact in the comments but keep it civil.
Lemmy vs Reddit
We all had our reasons to move to Lemmy. What I remember clearly from the beginning of the summer was that we were all praising the tone. Over the years, Reddit has become increasingly toxic - most of all in the comment section. To me, that was what made Lemmy special. Even with less content, the general vobe was what made me come back every time.
clash of the clans
Due to the nature of the fediverse, we get to interact with people with different backgrounds and dofferent ideas. Potentially an incredibly enriching experience for everyone. Anti-defed lemmings defend staying federated with everyone for that precise reason, which I really get. But lately the vibe has turned sour. Every post that has the slightest political undertone becomes this big us-vs-them show. Please stop
discussion vs. shitshow
I am not arguing for stopping discussing our opinions. I also get the whole they don’t have downvotes thing. But can we please treat eachother with dignity, and when writing comments say ‘I believe’ or ‘in my opinion’ instead of ‘you all this or that’?
I think this is the only way forward if we want to prevent everyone from personally blocking a lot of instances in the furure.
I’m new to Lemmy but it just feels more like Reddit in the sense that if you’re not part of the “hive mind”, then you’re just told to “go away” instead of participating in actual discussion.
It’s caused me to post less than when I initially joined. There’s not as much activity on Lemmy than on the Reddit equivalent in the main “channel” I read. So I’ve found myself wandering back to Reddit but I don’t post or comment much there either.
Yeah a couple of months ago a lot of lemmings were talking about how they were commenting a lot here while they never did on Reddit. I really think there has been a big shift going on and that has been an immense loss for the platform.
Before I used to make a few comments a day, which is a lot for me, but now I find myself commenting less and less. The whole vibe is really different from a month ago. When I joined the fediverse I hoped we could make something better than reddit, and I still do, but there has been a rise in toxicity recently. Arguments are a good thing but most of the time they just result in insults being thrown.
I think a part of it is the same old “normies are invading our community.” A bunch of the queer old guard of fedi are having to dent the new kids into shape.
I’m seeing a lot more centrist takes than I did before, and we all know what that leads to
You want to do what to the kids now?
Yep. We all know it leads to hope, dreams and positivity.
For me that’s one of the things from Reddit, the other was the niche subs!
The whole political algorithm driven doom scrolling dopamine reward thing Reddit pushed is actually what I want to go away from.
I want a tech sub without billionaire drama but with the newest PCB for raspberry, the new CPUs, tests and quality posts, “SSD only or does HDD still have a place for the usual gamer?”, even mice & keyboards.
I’d like a news sub without the same inclination of not talking about People (us presidents, rich people, known people, …) but that treats news.
And a headphone sub I can visit every 6 months someone in the family needs a new pair, and giving my feedback ofc.
Fountain pens, longevity, comics, art, …
That what’s I’m hoping for here, small(ish) niche subs run by people interested in the subject.
I’m finding it’s the opposite. Depending on what thread I stumble into I’ll get wildly different takes
I think part of this problem is that the USA has split more or less into two different cultures that have developed different languages to the point that they don’t even understand each other and what seems a rational argument in one language is perceived as hate speech in the other.
Europe is going into the same direction but it’s not as extreme yet.
Lemmy see those nuts. Ha! Goteem!
I feel much the same, but I also feel that there has been a rise in trolls and those who seek to create strife.
Arguing is all good and dandy, but arguing with trolls tends to result in wasted time and bad after tastes. If we are not supposed to block or ignore the trolls from the troll instances (those whose admins ignore or promote trolling and crusading), we’ll need more powerful moderator tools, potentially spanning multiple instances, which Harbour their own problems.
This i completely agree with.
Just recently had an argument where i voiced my opinion (albeit not in a really intelligent way at first i admit) and i immediately got a fat load of sarcasm from a person who disagreed with me. Said person thought i was a troll. I tried to convince them multiple times that i am serious and in fact not trolling but i think they still don’t believe me. It got to a point where it was so cumbersome to continue the argument that i just stopped replying.
I’d really prefer if everyone could be a bit more civil/professional in a disagreement.
My mantra with those things is:
- Attack the message, not the messenger. If the messenger insists on repeating a sufficiently absurd message, I’ll not stop them from repeating their mistake.
- Informing lurkers takes priority over changing my conversation partner’s stances.
To me the second point is the reason to engage woth trolls/ridiculous comments sometimes.
I’ll do it exactly once in that scenario.
I fully appreciate the desire for more civil discussion.
But please be aware that tone policing has been used as an offensive weapon against many marginalized groups: “We get that you want to fight for your rights, but could you please do that in the form of civil discourse?” That phrase is almost always heard when years of civil discourse lead nowhere.
I came here to say something similar, this “no politics” bullshit is such a privileged take.
Never mind that many of the largest communities on reddit had a similar policy, and it didn’t stop them being toxic cesspits, because it’s never about policing those who support the status quo, but only ever those who stand up to it.
Yesterday evening I was feeling the same way, so I started blocking users that are clearly posting inflammatory or aggressively brigadey content (note: not to be confused with things I don’t agree with. It’s about tone and tact, not content), or things that I find annoying to see over and over like the same trollish meme and emoji images. After only an evening of doing that, my Lemmy experience has been worlds better. I did notice a particular instance being the trend which makes me look forward to instance blocking, though at the moment I’d prefer to still do so on an individual user basis.
note: not to be confused with things I don’t agree with. It’s about tone and tact, not content
I’ve got to be honest, I find this kind of wild. That the tone a comment is said in is more important than the actual content of the message.
That assessment is precisely backwards for me.
I share the same view on this topic with the person you’re replying to and appreciate that you chose to type this out the way you did instead of something like ‘lmfao, wtf?’, which could have also signalled disagreement.
Honestly it seems to be mostly related to the instances you’re on and who they’re federated with
The instance I primarily use (Blahaj) had some drama recently that turned it into a bit of a shit show for a little while but once we were no longer federated with the problem it quickly got a lot nicer
Basically now you can have a civil discussion without people dogpiling and sealioning you down for having a slightly different opinion
Sh.itjust.works has already defederated from Hexbear? That quick? No announcement whatsoever?
Btw, lemm.ee is federated with Hexbear.
