Uh… nobody. There was one person once who stalked me and tried to sabotage me, but they’re gone and I’m not. It started with her getting hired and trying to pawn off all the worn on me while taking credit for it, trying to make it look like I would leave early, and talked all sorts of shit about me to my boss at the time (who also no longer works here).
I documented everything they did, excelled at my job, make friends with everyone, and built up my reputation: I got promoted and they became unemployed after becoming a pariah when people caught on to what was actually happening.
Document everything, nail it when it comes to your responsibilities, and try to maintain a good relationship with everyone, but at the end of the day if the above doesn’t work it’s not just a problem with your bully, it’s a problem with your workplace in general and it’s time to find something better: Polish up that resume and find a place that treats you right!
Life is too short to allow yourself to be abused for money.
Absolutely spot on. Document everything! I was in the exact situation and I can’t tell you how important documentation is
Nobody, and I won’t work somewhere that puts up with that shit.
I’ve had bad bosses and coworkers before. When I was young and easily replaceable I put up with it until I realized that the jobs were just as replaceable as I was. “Oh hey, I can make the same money almost anywhere, so why deal with these assholes?”
Now I’m specialized in a high demand field. Corporate plays stupid games among the executives but they know better than to mess with us - you can find an MBA under any rock but people with my skill set are the core of the business and we’re hard to find. My team is professional and helps each other out. Any of us could quit and likely get better pay elsewhere, so we make sure to weed out the troublemakers.
Love your attitude
I’ve never really been bullied, neither in school, university or work. When I realized that I thought that perhaps I was the bully if nobody bullied me. But I can’t think of having bullied anyone either, at least not intentionally.
I replied to OP but I also need to say that I have definitely been the bully before. Very very inept coworker that after months of mentoring started to blame me for their short comings. So, after that, I stopped being so nice. There was only so much bullshit I could handle.
So at the time, it felt justified? But looking back I wish my response was to just ignore them.
Never ignore. It sounds like they were being a dick honestly
»I« am probably bullying myself at work the most. I feel like a walking lie. Just … fake, like, that person that you see there, it’s not even really »me«. I cannot stop the pretend 🤦 conditioned to feel that the mean attitude of people from my past and their opinions on me is my identity …
I’ll try to accept that maybe for the others the feelings I experience is not how they think about me and, perhaps, grow a little bit further out of my internalized shame. Hmm…
Imposter syndrome
