We’ve all faced aome toxic traits in partners in some relationship. They’re supposed to be warning signs but its easy to misinterpret them, what’s yours?
Could be anything from possessiveness or jealousy to argumentativeness or bossiness.
Part of me enjoyed them making every little decision for me. I think it’s why I ended up in that situation in the first place.
I was burnt out and just didn’t want to think anymore, they came along and just controlled everything. For a little while it was nice.
But once I started getting better, they didn’t want to relinquish control and it was hard to escape.
After 2 years I did escape, but I had to relearn what my likes and dislikes were. They had done such a thorough job of deciding everything I had forgotten even little things e.g. if I liked chinese food, or if that was just their preference.
Hope you’ve rediscovered yourself ❤️. I know faaar too many women in a similar position.
And I’ve known men, too. No indicator for OP, but its easy for anyone to fall into this trap.
Part of me liked being love bombed. Through therapy I’ve been able to understand that this part of me is the traumatized child who desperately needed love.
I feel like this is probably a common one.
They would stop replying to any message, be overall unreachable, ghosting me when we planned a getaway at that date.
I assumed they needed space. I’m fine with respecting boundaries, even if it stings nonetheless when you miss them.But stopping literally existing out of the blue?
How much time do you need? Days, weeks? Should I wait for you to contact me? Should we cancel this weekend?
No way to get an answer. No, nothing.
Just toss a coin and try to find out.Edit: I forgot to explain that they would be back at some point. We would see each other for a while and then another bit of disappearance. Rince and repeat.
