Every time you interact with someone you should give them a base level of respect. How they respond determines the amount of respect you continue to proceed with.

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    10 months ago

    Slightly disagree.

    Every time you interact with someone you should give them a base level of respect.

    No. This is true for the first meeting with someone. After that the level of respect is based on their previous behaviour.

    Regularly act like a shithead, zero respect required.

    Respect is earned. If you don’t treat other people, animals, public property etc with respect, you deserve none in return.

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        10 months ago

        So if a stranger disrespects me, I should disrespect them more?

        Sounds like a mutual self destructive relationship if you ask me. Someone either has to be the better person, or just walk away.

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          10 months ago

          Walking away is just as disrespectful as dropping to their level. It sends the same message just with less effort.

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          10 months ago

          Eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind, but if you can’t avoid a fight, ftw. Not words, talk is cheap, but in my corner of the world guns are ubiquitous too. There’s a difference between doormat/whipping person and hostile but at the end of the day, survival instinct is strong.

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        10 months ago

        I disagree with you that there is a minimum anyone deserves.

        Past a certain point you are disrespecting yourself to allow them to be in your presence or have any contact with you.

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      10 months ago

      Agree.

      1. Respect has to be earned (you cannot demand)
      2. Give proper respect (don’t expect they will reciprocate)

      Those are my thoughts.

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      10 months ago

      Right but often the self-respecting thing to do is not stoop to their level and make a mess.

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        10 months ago

        And some times you have to stoop to their level as some arseholes see any respect as weakness and the behaviour will continue. It should never be the first choice but it it is still an option in extreme cases.