I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don’t feel like anyone notices.

So I’m going to try and compliment people who:

Have really well done and unique tattoos

Are older but super athletic (It’s harder and more thankless, since when you’re young and athletic you’re usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)

Have super sharp outfits

Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)

what are other good compliments we should give each other?

EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I’ll try to throw out a “looks like you’re cooking up some good stuff”

  • tobogganablaze@lemmus.org
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    For example, if I’m wearing a shirt of a band I like, and another dude compliments it, why would that not make me feel good?

    I’d say it depends on how you compliment it exactly. If you say “That’s a nice shirt”, that’s basically saying you have good taste. I see no issue with that.

    But if you’d say “You look nice in that shirt”, that would be weird and I’d assume you’re coming on to me.

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      But why is it weird? As long as whoever compliments you like that doesn’t try to kiss you, what’s the issue? Maybe the shirt suits you well and highlights something nice about your physique? As long as the compliment ia genuine, why do you assume whoever compliments you is trying to get in your pants? Is that the only reason you give compliments like that?

      Honestly I struggle with flirting so maybe I’m getting something wrong here. Maybe people really generally only compliment like that when they’re trying to suggest sexual interest.

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        That’s the problem. Males usually only do compliments here in sexual interest. Don’t deny it. I don’t want any of it from a dude. I welcome it from a girl. I’m a male.

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          Honestly, based on your comments here I’d say that this is a you problem by proxy; I’d bet that it’s your dad that’s done you such a disservice raising you that you now reject compliments from 50% of the population of earth. That’s a problem for you.

          On the sexual side, if you can’t see any positive in another man showing you any sort of attention in that way, that’s a problem. Its not gay to receive a compliment, man. Just say thanks and move on with your day. EZ PZ.

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      4 months ago

      Ok not but that’s different. The guy is complimenting “the shirt or the band that appeals to him” not you.