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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • People are so damn shallow about looks, it’s ridiculous.

    The fact is that an AIO has a shorter lifespan, is way more expensive per-watt, and… Oh, right.

    Sex work is work, and the people doing it deserve respect. Fuck the ‘there will be consequences’ mindset, since that mostly comes from the people imposing the ‘consequences’ in the first place.

    I wouldn’t be willing/able to suspend disbelief about an actual personal connection either, but it’s a valid human emotional need, and if it works for people, good for them.






  • Laptops are uniformly awful.

    You can’t upgrade or replace the GPU or CPU, the hinge assembly is mechanically vulnerable, a cup of coffee over the keyboard is game over, the screen dies you’ve got a ridiculous cost to fix, the cooling sucks, the ergonomics suck, and you pay about double the price for half the specs.

    You need a proper screen and keyboard at your desk anyway, so unless you’re hotdesking with the thing, it’s just going to act like a shitty desktop most of the time.









  • With the best will in the world, I think you’re still conflating the symptom with the disease.

    Gender-policing is abusive, and abused people often behave in problematic and indeed shitty ways. While of course there are no excuses for shitty behaviour, it’s also incredibly shit to turn around and frame that behaviour in terms of the criteria by which they were picked out for abuse in the first place.

    For intance (to get into properly uncomfortable territory), it’s fair to say that systemic racism drives poverty and disadvantage, which in turn can drive all kinds of antisocial behaviour and societal problems. But imagine for one second some sociologist coming up with the concept of ‘toxic Africanity’ (or equivalent) to describe it. They would get fucking dragged, and rightly so.

    It’s not about being ‘probably one of the good ones’. It’s about looking at a bunch horrible maladaptive coping strategies, and asking what the hell it is we’re expecting people to cope with, and why we put up with that.



  • This post right here is exactly why ‘toxic masculinity’ is a fucking shit term that should never be used.

    The intended meaning of the phrase was never ‘men, who are toxic’, or even ‘men who are toxic’, even though that’s the straight-line interpretation of it.

    What it’s supposed to mean is ‘overexaggerated performative masculinity required by social norms, the imposition of which upon men is toxic’.

    Given that that’s a fucking mouthful and the short form is horribly misleading, I always go with “gender policing” instead.

    Stop telling people how to do their gender, and a vast number of social problems will evaporate. It also places the blame on the actual cause of the problem, and expands to cover mandatory-performative-femininity as well, which is also a shit thing to subject people to.