I ate your onion and was about to quibble about the New Hampshire accent.

I agree with you 100%, just wanted to say that you probably mean tortuous… though torturous is definitely metaphorically possible 😂

Off, or not really the norm :)

Like, I said it’s nice that people think I’m a dude, but I don’t know if fully cis women think that’s nice 😅

You mean sea salt? Yeah, there’s tiny shellfish in it, which is why kosher salt exists

I moved to Germany, which is also nice, but with an easier language for English speakers to learn (not super easy to master, but it’s pretty closely related and getting a good grasp on day to day conversations is relatively simple).

Probably the biggest takeaway I have is that poverty culture largely forms the flavor of any community, and communities without poverty have no flavor to them.

That’s such a succinct way to put something I feel like I’ve read 400 page books about. I’d also never thought about it as one thing before: I’ve definitely had the thought that famines make the best cuisines and boredom the best games, but I’ve never put it together as a general rule.

Not everyone is straight, I wasn’t digging at you for inexperience.

You misunderstand. Lots of women like to “look at sexy ladies,” but the things that turn men and women on in pornography are different (this should not be a surprise if you’ve sexually engaged with a member of the opposition sex). They’re noting that they didn’t find anything aimed at women, which is reflective of the gender demographics here.

There’s always a difference in how men and women are treated. It’s not always a horrible evil sexist thing, but people pick up on cues from tone and username and react to that.

Being online is nice, because the default assumption is that you’re a man, so unless you have a super femme username or are talking about something femme-coded like gardening or knitting, people tend not to treat you like a woman. “Treating you like a woman” basically means being dismissive of your experience or knowledge or tone policing (if I make a rude joke under a femme username, people downvote the hell out of it unless it’s about a very safe target- that’s how minor the difference is, to be clear). I’m also probably an egg, so my perception of not being treated like a woman as nice might be skewed.

Why not make a new account with a femme sounding username and see? Don’t pretend you need help with a bra or anything, just interact with lemmy while “labeled” a woman.

I have a more masculine username and a more feminine username (both seem like spins on given names, think UrArthUr and Bekky), and there is a difference in how I’m perceived, or at least how people respond to me. It’s not huge, and I’m afab irl, so I’m also not surprised- I don’t think I’ve ever been somewhere where people can freely interact and it had no effect (or at least not since I grew tits).

I think the overturning of chevron deference actually might make it so that politicians are just as qualified to make medical decisions for their constituents as doctors. It’s not a good era for the Supreme Court

They began testing a vaccine for smoking based cancer a few months ago. Emphysema and COPD are still things to worry about, but cancer might not be for long.

You know how some bras are just made out of spandex/Lycra and have basically zero support?

I was wearing one of those for things like Morris dancing (think of worse Irish step dancing, basically a lot of hopping up and down), not realizing that it did nothing and was probably much more revealing than I intended.

An actual sports bra isn’t exactly uncomfortable, but it’s definitely not cozy to wear while lounging around the house. It’s much better for jumping though and keeps everything where it belongs.

My mom died when I was 12, but she was ill and not really participating in my life for much longer. There are some things that I missed out on because I didn’t have a maternal figure, but they’re pretty minor. For example, I learned as a 29 year old with D cups that there’s a difference between a sports bra and a bra without an underwire (exercise is much more comfortable now). People might disagree, but I don’t think that’s a huge deal not to know, and almost any adult woman as well as many men would have been able to tell me that, had I thought to ask.

I guess I’d say: if you’re raising a child alone or with a partner of the same gender, just get a comprehensive health/sex Ed teacher. Otherwise, I don’t think there’s much of a need for any specific gender in child raising.

I don’t know anything about tech, so please bear with your mom’s work friend (me) being ignorant about technology for a second.

I thought the whole issue with generative ai as it stands was that it’s equally confident in truth and nonsense, with no way to distinguish the two. Is there actually a way to get it to “remember” true things and not just make up things that seem like they could be true?

I could see children deciding that this is how they get gun control laws.

I think with a forced gender binary, any advantages are double sided: men are respected, but not allowed to show emotion; women are cared for, but infantilized; men earn more money, but can’t ask for help; women are trusted with children, but not computers; men get to go on adventures, but can’t back down from a fight.

Like, with other forms of bigotry, there’s a much clearer “winner,” but sexism fucks everyone. I don’t think it fucks everyone equally, but it does negatively impact everyone.

I’m an AFAB egg and I heavily relate to a lot of that. I come off some sort of way to people (I’m also 178 cm, but only 62kg, so I’m tall but not big, maybe that’s related), such that people don’t interrupt me, take credit for my ideas, mansplain to me… I actually experience very little in terms of individual (vs institutional) sexism, and I don’t know how to phrase that without it seeming like victim blaming. People don’t even catcall me anymore, but I may have just aged out of it

I do feel awful for the kids who would have gotten to go to these schools, but won’t because of institutionalized racism. Just not for the people who pushed for this law

My husband sharpened a friend of mine’s meat cleaver for her. I knew I’d be seeing her at the library later, so I folded it inside cardboard and put it in a reusable shopping bag for her. At no point did I worry about anyone stopping me, and if they had, I would have expected them to believe me about what happened.

Everything went according to plan and I wouldn’t have thought anything of it, if my husband hadn’t been so surprised that I gave her the knife in public.