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Cake day: August 1st, 2023

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  • There is something my therapist pointed out to me, who was feeling like fraud about being trans. There is some peer pressure out there on how you have to be to be trans. We are not talking about mean peer pressure, but if you see that bodily transitioning is the way for apparently every trans person, then that must be the way for you too, right? And what if you really dread procedures or meds? Or if you are maybe not super happy with your body, but who ever is? Does that make you less trans? I think it really helps to think of trans as a spectrum and exploring it slowly. And maybe you find your gender identity on that spectrum or you feel role playing etc. is just some good fun. And if you find yourself on that spectrum you can go into character creation and say, I’m fine with the presets or change things up, the result will always be beautifully you.


  • Gender and trans are a spectrum, so maybe your wandering in that plain is your gender identity? Nonbinary, genderfluid and pangender are labels that took me the longest time to grasp, but are what I’m comfortable now with. And also the aspect, that wether you bodily transition or not does not decide wether you wanna use the label trans for you or not. It’s free and one way or the other it’s great to open up that binary system.








  • I don’t know the context of your post, but in the fediverse it is part of the netiquette not to judge other people, especially on such oversimplified terms.

    Being obese is often not a great experience. I think being told „you can choose not to be a fat bastard“ is already insulting and also insinuating that this aspect of physical and or mental health is a simple matter of choice, which I find to be quite unbearable and very hurtful.

    Please take your anger elsewhere. I don’t know what you might be going through right now, but you must find healthier ways to vent this aggression.

    Instead of punishing others for their struggles, we can find healthy ways to support one another here.