Yeah some people just become sympathy vacuums. They always have a “woe is me” mentality and want a ton of comforting when nothing is really wrong. (I was raised by one of these and it’s draining!)
People don’t talk about this enough. It’s one thing to be an arrogant prick with self-esteem that’s way too high, but the same thing goes for people with self-esteem that’s way too low. In either case you’re walking on eggshells around them trying to make sure you don’t say the wrong thing and send them into a temper tantrum or self-pity spiral. I have a little more sympathy for the latter, but both forms are incredibly toxic imo.
Self pity. It’s one thing having a bad day or rough patch, but some people have an extraordinary need for pity. It’s a big red flag
Yeah some people just become sympathy vacuums. They always have a “woe is me” mentality and want a ton of comforting when nothing is really wrong. (I was raised by one of these and it’s draining!)
Oh god yes… “my sock is twisted, whhhyyy meeeeee?” And your life then has to revolve around the twisted sock.
People don’t talk about this enough. It’s one thing to be an arrogant prick with self-esteem that’s way too high, but the same thing goes for people with self-esteem that’s way too low. In either case you’re walking on eggshells around them trying to make sure you don’t say the wrong thing and send them into a temper tantrum or self-pity spiral. I have a little more sympathy for the latter, but both forms are incredibly toxic imo.